“Do not believe in anything because you have heard it. Do not believe in anything because it is spoken by many. Do not believe in anything because it is written in religious books. Do not believe in anything on the authority of your teachers. Do not believe in traditions just because they have been handed down. But after observation and analysis, when you find that anything agrees with reason and is conducive to the good and benefit of one and all, then accept it and live up to it.”
I’ve been so busy over the last couple of months that I haven’t had the opportunity to reflect over 2013 (or blog). For as long as I can remember, I would set New Year resolutions at the end of a year. Last year, in an inspired moment, I made New Year intentions. However, by January 1st things were already not going anywhere close to how I had planned. Despite the rocky start, 2013 turned out to be an absolutely amazing year. Yes, there were a few (read: a lot) bumps in the road, which made me question choices I was making, but I needed those bumps to occur to finally reach the path and pace I’m at now.
With January 2014 being a mere 4 days away, I’m starting the year with cautious optimism. Wait, I retract that statement, I’m starting the year with complete optimism– go hard or go home, right? I do not plan on making a dozen resolutions only to forget about them by the first week of February. So, I’m making one choice and that is to just hit play.
What I want most out of 2014 is tweaks, that in change give me a slightly better life and perhaps offers me the chance to do the same for others. I do have actionable goals dancing around in my beautiful mind, but they’re a) rather boring and b) rather personal. Instead, I am going to share a few mantras I’m using this new year. Because I’ve already pressed play on living the life I want, I’ve been using these since the latter part of 2013, and they’ve been unquestionably valuable. They feel right. They feel relevant. They feel “now.”
2013 will forever be remembered as the year I unlearned everything I was taught & finally felt free. Metanoia is the journey of changing one’s mind, heart, self, and/or way of life. I discovered that being comfortable with yourself, beliefs, desires, actions and thoughts are all paths on this journey that leads to happiness. I’ve practiced metanoia for several months now and it works. I am generally happier and when I am happy it only brings about more happiness.
2. Just start. The journey will change (you).
This is a big one. For too long I stayed in a job and entertained a relationship that brought me nothing but conscious misery. I was so afraid of starting over in both instances, that I allowed fear to takeover my life. Then one day, I just did it and let go of them both! I didn’t know how I was going to survive being without either, but I learned along the way. Now I’m in a career that brings me so much joy and my romantic life has never been so wonderful [blushes]. My journey changed for the better, changed me for the better and all I had to do was start.
3. I am beautiful.
Say it with me, I am beautiful! I am including this here for a reason. Yes, I wouldn’t mind if I gained some pounds (no error, I said gain). Yes, I would love larger breasts. Yes, I want my curls to stop being so rebellious. That is all fine. But I must know that I am beautiful regardless of any of that. I am a beautiful full stop. We all are. Remember, someone’s inability or unwillingness to see your worth or beauty does not decrease the value of either.
With all of that being said, 2013 was about taking first steps. It was about ironing out the emotional wrinkles. Unearthing the obstacles I put in my way and finding that I am stronger than I made myself out to be. 2014 is about continuing to work on this amazing person 2013 helped me become. To do everything in my life with soul, creativity and love.